5 Big Dating Mistakes Men Make on the First Date

It’s not just what men do on a first date that sets the tone; it’s also what they don’t do. Let’s take a look at five of the biggest dating mistakes that men make when on a first date.

1. Don’t talk too much about yourself on the date. Sure, it’s a cliché, but most women still appreciate the strong silent type. This doesn’t mean that you should clam up and not talk to your date (especially on a first date when you’re just getting to know each other), but you should remember to keep the focus on her. Whatever you do, don’t hog the conversation or waste time bragging or otherwise trying to impress your date. Nine times out of 10 she’ll see right through your bravado and assume it is based on insecurity – not attractive!

2. Don’t be too clingy or desperate. Even if you haven’t had a date in six months, it’s important that you don’t come off as needy or desperate. Feel free to show a little affection, but don’t go too far with it. If she gets the idea that you are “really” into her, she will likely lose interest. In the end, it’s a bit of a balancing act; you want to show her that you are interested, but not too interested, if you see what I mean.

3. Don’t be nervous. Of course, this may be easier said than done for some guys, but it is critically important that you seem relaxed and comfortable with her. Remember, if you are comfortable with her, she will be comfortable with you too. And that’s exactly what you want.

4. When the date is over, do not call or text her later that night. Even if your intention is just to say “I had a good time,” don’t do it! Contacting her the same night as your date is always a big no no. Most women will find this behavior clingy and needy, and more often than not it is a deal breaker for the woman. The majority of women can handle a guy who is shy, or little quiet, or even lacking manners or rough around the edges; but they will NOT tolerate a man who seems desperate and clingy on the first date.

5. Under no circumstances should you ever just “drop by” to say hello without talking to her on the phone first. Never assume that she’ll be pleased that you stopped by. The fact is, she may feel smothered or even threatened by this behavior and assume you are a stalker. Remember, her home is her castle, just like yours. Showing up unannounced can quickly backfire and leave her with a very poor impression of you.

All of the above dating mistakes are pretty basic, and it only takes using common sense to avoid them. Unfortunately, common sense goes out the window for many men were dating is concerned. Remembering these basics and behaving comfortably and civilly around your date will go a long way toward getting you that all-important second date.

By: Jon Mercer

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